Therapy in Clapham (London), Tonbridge (Kent) & Online
Are you managing your life rather than living it? Perhaps things look fine on the outside while inside you feel stuck, numb or disconnected. It might show up in relationships, in intimacy, at work, or in a growing sense that this is not the life you were meant to have.
I specialise in addiction, codependency and adaptive behaviours, many of which are solutions to something older: for example early relationships that asked you to be someone or something you weren't, or a sense that you were only accepted if you behaved 'properly'.
The anxiety, the low mood, and the feeling of being stuck, hidden or burnt out come from the same place. Working with the root causes is where change tends to last.
I came to this work through my own recovery from addiction, and years of my own therapy. I work with all neurotypes. Adults who experience autistic and ADHD characteristics, diagnosed or not, are a regular part of my practice, and I adapt how sessions run to suit how you think and process.
I work in person in Clapham (London) and Tonbridge (Kent), and online across the UK.
About me
I’m Joel, a BACP-Accredited therapist. With a 25+ year career across education, training, coaching and therapy, I'm interested in personal growth in all its forms, and in supporting people to develop themselves and feel fulfilled in their lives.
My approach draws on person-centred, psychodynamic and relational therapy, adapted to you as an individual rather than a one-size-fits-all model. My style is relaxed, warm and collaborative. Therapy is a significant investment in yourself, so I offer a space where you can speak openly, feel heard, and explore what's most important to you at a pace that feels safe.
Clients often tell me they settle quickly, speak more openly than they expected, and begin to see things from a different perspective. My role isn't to fix you, but to support you in making sense of your experience and finding your own way forward.
I'm also the founder of Tonbridge Counselling Hub, which supports the local community with therapists offering face-to-face and online counselling, including a number of lower-cost spaces for those who cannot afford the full fee.
Sometimes anxiety or 'over-thinking' isn't the problem; it's the messenger.
You might come to therapy because of anxiety, low mood, or feeling stuck. These are often (not always) the surface of something deeper: addiction or compulsive patterns, codependency and people-pleasing, a self-esteem built on an old story that was never true, or un-recognised neurodivergence.
In therapy, we can work both at the surface (addressing everyday challenges), as well as at a deeper level. My experience is that we can often settle the anxiety and lift the mood, as well as work on the underlying causes. In this way changes you make during therapy become lasting over time.
Who do I work with?
I offer therapy for adults aged 18+ who are experiencing anxiety, self-doubt, addiction, relationship patterns, codependency, identity questions or feeling stuck in themselves.
Where do sessions take place?
I offer in-person therapy in Clapham and Tonbridge, and online therapy via Zoom.
What type of therapy do I offer?
I offer therapy that helps you understand the patterns affecting your identity, confidence, relationships and sense of direction - so you can move towards sustainable and meaningful change.
What is the fee and how do I start?
My standard fee is £95 for a 50-minute session. I have some concessionary spaces if you require. Just ask.
You can book a free 20-minute chat to ask questions and see whether working together feels like a good fit.
How I can help
I work with people experiencing:
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Anxiety and overwhelm
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Low confidence and self-doubt
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Addiction and compulsive patterns (extensive experience, including within 12-step contexts)
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Relationship and attachment difficulties
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Codependency* and people-pleasing
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Identity, meaning and feeling “lost” in yourself
*Codependency refers to becoming overly focused on others’ needs at the expense of your own wellbeing, often linking self-worth to others’ approval.
Often, these aren’t separate problems, but patterns shaped by earlier experiences, relationships, and the roles we’ve learned to take on.
You might recognise yourself in this if:
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You overthink or second-guess yourself
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You feel anxious, low, or unsure how to shift how you’re feeling
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You tend to prioritise others, but feel disconnected from yourself
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You find certain patterns repeating in relationships or feel stuck in difficult dynamics
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You’re struggling with habits or behaviours you’d like to change, including around alcohol or other dependencies
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You notice patterns of codependency, people-pleasing, or difficulty setting boundaries
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You’re navigating questions around identity; whether that’s gender, sexuality, or feeling different in how you think, feel, or experience the world
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You feel “fine” on the surface, but something doesn’t quite feel right underneath
What therapy can offer
Much of the work we do together is about understanding the patterns that have shaped you — and finding more freedom in how you live and relate.
This might include:
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Exploring early experiences and relationships
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Noticing patterns in the present
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Understanding emotional responses and coping strategies
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Developing a stronger, more grounded sense of self
Over time, this can lead to greater clarity, confidence, and a deeper sense of being yourself.
