Therapy in Clapham (London), Tonbridge (Kent) & Online
Whatever you do to get through, you learned for a reason. It used to work, and now it doesn’t. You might notice it in relationships, in intimacy, at work, in feeling numb or disconnected, or in a growing sense that this is not the life you were meant to have.
You may already know deep down what's behind it. But knowing has probably not been enough.
Does any of this sound familiar?
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Nobody looking at your life would guess anything was wrong
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You overthink or second-guess yourself
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There's a habit or behaviour you’d like to change, perhaps around alcohol or something else
- You look after everyone else and find it hard to say what you want
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The same patterns keep repeating in your relationships
Sometimes anxiety or over thinking isn't the problem
Addiction, compulsive habits, people-pleasing, a self-esteem built on an old story are usually solutions to something older: these come from the same place as the anxiety, the low mood and the feelings of being stuck. Often early relationships that asked you to be someone you weren't, or a sense that you were only acceptable on certain terms. This is why therapy that focuses on only the symptoms rarely shifts anything for very long.
That doesn't mean ignoring what's hard now. We can settle the anxiety and lift the mood while also working on what's driving it, and that's usually why the changes you make are long term.
I came to this work through my own recovery from addiction and years of my own therapy. I work with all neurotypes. Adults who experience autistic, OCD or ADHD characteristics, diagnosed or not, are a regular part of my practice, and I adapt how sessions run to suit how you think and process.
About me
I’m Joel, a BACP-Accredited therapist. With a 25+ year career across education, training, coaching and therapy, I'm interested in personal growth in all its forms, and in supporting people to develop themselves and feel fulfilled in their lives.
My approach draws on person-centred, psychodynamic and relational therapy, adapted to you as an individual rather than a one-size-fits-all model. My style is relaxed, warm and collaborative. Therapy is a significant investment in yourself, so I offer a space where you can speak openly, feel heard, and explore what's most important to you at a pace that feels safe.
Clients often tell me they settle quickly, speak more openly than they expected, and begin to see things from a different perspective. My role isn't to fix you, but to support you in making sense of your experience and finding your own way forward.
I'm also the founder of Tonbridge Counselling Hub, which supports the local community with therapists offering face-to-face and online counselling, including a number of lower-cost spaces for those who cannot afford the full fee.
