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Codependency is a pattern of behavior characterized by an excessive focus on and preoccupation with the needs, feelings, and actions of others, often at the expense of one's own well-being. In codependent relationships, individuals may sacrifice their own needs and boundaries to maintain harmony, and their self-worth becomes closely tied to the approval and validation of others. This pattern can lead to unhealthy and unbalanced relationships, where individuals may struggle to assert their own needs and maintain a sense of individual identity.

Common Signs & Symptoms

Recognizing codependency involves identifying signs like excessive people-pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries, feeling responsible for others' emotions, and neglecting your own needs. These patterns can lead to a cycle of enabling unhealthy behavior in others, perpetuating the codependent dynamic.

The 4 'F's

Codependency often triggers the "fight, flight, fawn, or freeze" response. You might find yourself constantly trying to please others (fawn), avoiding conflict at all costs (flight), becoming defensive or confrontational (fight), or feeling paralyzed when faced with the possibility of someone's disapproval (freeze). Recognizing your default response is essential for breaking free from codependency.

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Common Causes

Codependency often roots itself in early life experiences, such as growing up in dysfunctional families or having caregivers with addiction or mental health issues. Trauma and a lack of healthy relationship role models can contribute to the development of codependent patterns. Understanding these roots is crucial for unraveling codependency's grip.

Common forms of codependency

Codependency can manifest in various forms, including compliant, controlling or avoidant behaviours, and combinations of these. Each type comes with its own set of challenges, but the common thread is the excessive focus on others at the expense of one's own well-being. Identifying your specific codependent tendencies is key to developing targeted strategies for change.

Trauma & Codependency

Similar to other emotional challenges, codependency can be intertwined with past traumatic experiences. Trauma, such as emotional or physical abuse, can shape codependent behaviors as coping mechanisms. Recognizing the connection between trauma and codependency is an essential aspect of the healing journey.

How therapy can help

Integrative therapy helps clients identify codependent patterns, set healthy boundaries, enhance self-esteem, and improve communication skills. Mindfulness and emotional regulation techniques may be used, along with an exploration of core beliefs and identity. The therapy encourages goal-setting, empowerment, and the cultivation of independence.


Integrative therapy offers a tailored and comprehensive approach to break free from unhealthy relationship dynamics and foster personal growth, enabling individuals to establish more balanced and fulfilling connections with others.

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